I’m angry. I’ve tried to keep my mouth shut about Caitlyn Jenner, because you all know how I feel, and because the coverage has already been very thorough. But I’m too angry to hold my tongue anymore. The backlash Caitlyn has had to endure makes my heart ache. One article in particular has brought my blood to a boil, and here it is:
Take a moment to read, and absorb the (what I consider idiocy but will instead call) ill-informed words of this clearly old fashioned doctor.
I would like to offer some insight into this article… maybe throw a few wrenches into his argument.
Firstly, I’m irritated and frustrated by his use of quotations marks. The fact that he puts people’s chosen names in quotations is rude. I would be offended if people wrote my name as “Meg” simply because I chose to be known as that name instead of as my given name of Margaret.
Secondly, this man states that sex is the thing that queer and transgender people are “choosing.” I think we all know at this point that sex is determined by chromosomes and the societal assignments of those chromosomes and genitalia, and is not something we are able to choose. However, gender and gender expression is wholly different and IS fluid. When you were a child did you not go through a tomboy phase, and then a girly phase, and then decide that dresses were your jam, after which rejecting them for years? Gender can be, and is, ever changing for many people.
Thirdly, I cannot hold to the fact that he assigns being transgender as a pathology. Psychologists and doctors have together agreed that this is NOT the case, and that the psychological aberrations of gender dysphoria (please refer to the DSM-V, a peer reviewed and globally accepted reference book for the diagnosis and management of mental illness) has more to do with depression and anxiety stemming from a lack of societal acceptance.
Lastly I want to draw attention to the underground movement of “conversion therapy.” What this doctor is calling psychotherapy is in fact conversion therapy, which is inhumane. Psychotherapy for people who are transgender and queer should revolve around normal mental health, just like any other person. It should address their depression, anxiety, or other problems that are actually considered mental illness, not their gender expression. Conversion therapy is archaic and damaging, and instead of fixing what is not broken in the first place, just teaches people to attempt to ignore their feelings. It is thanks to these kinds of practices that transgender and queer people have such high suicide rates.
By no means to do you need agree with me, or the lives LGBTQI people live, but you do have to show empathy toward them. You may not understand what they are going through, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t going through it. It is everyone’s job to accept people the way they are, look past what We may see as shortcomings, and embrace the beauty of their lives the way they choose to live.
For you Christians out there who have been posting these types of articles, here’s some extra food for thought:
“Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint againt another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” Colossians 3:13
“Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.” Romans 15:7
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count other more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4
“All that the Father gives Me will come to Me, and the one who comes to Me I will certainly not cast out.” John 6:37
“The one who eats is not to regard with contempt the one who does not eat, and the one who does not eat is not to judge the one who eats, for God has accepted him.” Romans 14:3